Isn’t it crazy how celebrating certain milestones with those we love makes us reminisce about our own experiences at that time?
Just recently I attended a party celebrating my best friend’s birthday. She reached that pivotal 25 year mark- an entire quarter of a century + she spent the entire night joking about how old she felt.
I, on the other hand, sat there beside her the entire night thinking about how the memory of my own 25th birthday seemed so far away. In reality, it was just four short years ago- but seriously, do I even remember my twenty-five year-old self?
At 25 all I can remember is thinking that I had it all together- I had done what everyone did- graduated from high school, went to college, earned my Bachelor’s…
All I had to do now was wait on my big kid job to kick in and I could coast through the rest of whatever life had in store for me. I’d settle down, buy a house, have 2.5 kids with the white picket fence in the front yard and vacation somewhere exotic at least once a year!
To no surprise, that wasn’t even close to how things turned out…
And as I near that next big milestone, the big 3-0, things are still nowhere near that crazy daydream I got stuck in my head somewhere along the way. Truth be told, I’m not even mad about it.
You see, a lot of women fear their thirties- it’s the transition into middle-age, a reminder that youth is not forever; it’s the realization of goals left undone and of accomplishments not yet reached. But I’m choosing to kick fear to the curb + embrace the new life changes that are headed my way.
I’ll be honest, in the last twenty-nine years, I’ve grown more on a personal level than I ever thought possible. Sure, I’ve made a lot of mistakes, had a few career changes.
I’ve also, traveled and realized exactly how big this world we live in is (and similarly how small my own problems really are). I’ve loved, lost and experienced the kind of heartbreak that physically took my breath away.
And through it all, I know- deep in my heart- that I’m stronger and better-off because of all that I’ve gone through.
Can you relate, friend?
This last year in particular, I took some time to find myself again, to reflect on my life purpose and to rediscover the things that truly make me happy.
It’s been a process, but it’s left me with some important realizations. While I am still nowhere close to having this thing called life figured out, I am satisfied that I’ve taken the path most right for me.
So in honor of 29 years, I’m sharing the 29 most important Life Lessons that I’ve Learned along the way.
- Being busy is not the same as being productive.
- Don’t be so determined to get through life that you forget to enjoy it!
- Work will always be there for you whereas family & friends will not, so choose where to spend your time wisely.
- People don’t need to understand, nor be happy about your decisions- only YOU do.
- Make yourself a priority every once in a while.
- Everyone defines success differently.
- Timing is everything- never rush!
- Complaining does not help, nor does it solve any problems.
- Get your hands dirty & do some manual work every now and then to keep yourself grounded.
- Privacy is a rarity these days- guard it!
- Who cares what life looks like, it’s more important what it feels like.
- Regret and heartbreak will be your toughest teachers, yet you will learn the most.
- Mental health matters.
- If you’re not happy, that’s on you. Change. Period.
- Don’t be fooled by people who appear to have it all together- they don’t.
- Blessings come both big and small- notice them.
- Risks are what help us feel alive. Take them.
- Saying you will do something and actually doing it are two separate things.
- The most restful sleeps come after the longest days.
- Just because you don’t have something now doesn’t mean you won’t eventually.
- The biggest mistake you can ever make is not to make any.
- Failure will teach you far more about life than success every will.
- Good manners never go out of style.
- If you take care of things, they last. That includes your health, your relationships, your possessions, your life!
- The things that scare you the most- those are the things you need to do more of.
- Have fun but also know enough to have funds.
- Find people who “get you” and never let them go.
- People will take advantage of your kindness- don’t let that stop you from being kind.
- Don’t ever be afraid of starting over- fresh starts can lead to happy endings!
I’m not going to pretend that I have everything figured out, friends. I certainly have so much more yet to learn, but I’m choosing to embrace it all.
I’m choosing to laugh + love during the good moments. And I’m praying for the patience to endure the tough moments- because, in the end, it all will bring me to exactly where I need to be 😉
Now it’s your turn! Let me know in the comments below what some of life’s most important lessons have been for you. I can’t wait to read them all.
Here to support YOU! XO- Britney (ms.fit.farmer)
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