As I sit here writing this latest blog post, I’m wearing an oversized + baggy sweatshirt, mismatched socks, and not one single ounce of make-up.
My hair is frazzled + pulled back just enough so not to be in my face.
And if I’m 100 percent, completely honest with you- I’m not entirely sure whether the sweatpants I have on are clean, or whether they were picked from off the top of the dirty clothes pile that has now overtaken my closet…
Whereas most nights I’d make an effort to prepare some sort of delicious and satisfying meal, tonight I’m pretty sure that I’ll resign to reheating something in the microwave- straight out of the frozen foods section of our local grocer- and call it good.
You see, my boyfriend is out of town and not due back home for another day.
Isn’t it funny how lax we become when it’s just us by ourselves?
The more I think about it- had my boyfriend been in town tonight, I wouldn’t have thought twice about throwing something in the crockpot earlier for us to enjoy. Heck, I’d most likely even grab the ‘nice’ plates (you know, the non-paper ones that you have to wash rather than just throw away). And I would have likely put in a bit more effort into my appearance- eyeliner and mascara at least, and probably some of that perfume that I know he likes.
But when it becomes just me- that suddenly goes out the window…
In full disclosure, by no means do I feel the need to impress anyone here. After more than a year of dating, and 10+ years of friendship, we are well past that stage- trust me, my boyfriend has surely seen me at my worst…
So why then, does he get to see the best of me?
And it’s not just him that I’m talking about either…
I mean, really, I show my best side to my boss, my co-workers, my friends, total strangers even! Yet, when I get a little time to myself, suddenly ‘good enough’ becomes the standard.
I convince myself that it would take too much time to plate my dinner on the nice dishes, and instead lean over the sink while eating straight from the pan so to avoid crumbs.
I tell myself that I can save time by putting exactly zero effort into my appearance and getting on with my day.
And as for the state of my little ole’ house… those small things that can change the entire atmosphere of this place- things like making the bed or setting out nice hand towels in the bathroom- they too go by the wayside.
After all, it’s ‘just me’.
Why ‘Better’ Doesn’t Take As Long As We Think:
We often scoff that we don’t have the time or energy to do things a certain way. We sacrifice ‘better’ for ‘that will do’ because we believe that it’s not hurting anybody- when in reality, we are short changing ourselves.
You (yes, you!, my friend) deserve better.“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -BuddhaClick To Tweet
And the best part- it doesn’t have to take all that long (I promise!).
The problem is that we somehow got it stuck in our heads that ‘better’ takes too much time. And time is a commodity that we never seem to have enough of- I get it.
But have you ever timed out how much longer those life-improving tasks actually take?
Seriously do you know how much longer it takes to put your food on a plate, on top of a placemat, and eat it at the table?
Are you aware of how much time it would take to run a brush through your hair rather than just throw it into a tangled rat’s nest on top your head?
I bet you didn’t know that the answer to those questions is- less than two minutes.
Don’t believe me? Next time you feel like rushing through something or putting it off because you think you don’t have enough time, pull out your phone, turn on the stopwatch, and do the slightly-more-time-consuming version. You might be amazed by how little time you actually use.
Why Happiness is Truly the About the Little Things:
I’m sure you can see where I’m going with this. Notice how these tiny upgrades and slow-downs feel. Pay attention to how they affect your life. Do you feel happier, calmer, more energized?
It is so important to take note of those things in life that make us feel better + keep doing them- your well-being depends on it.“Focus not on doing less or doing more, but on doing what you value” -Gretchen RubinClick To Tweet
Of course, I’m not saying every single aspect of your life needs to become the slightly longer, ‘more intentional’ version. Sometimes you really need the two minutes you saved by eating a protein bar for breakfast, in the car. Sometimes you just don’t feel like putting on eyeliner. That’s fine!
But I think you might be surprised to find how little time it actually takes to make your daily life feel calmer, sweeter, and ‘better.’
I challenge you this week, this month, this year to take care of yourself like you would others.
Take the extra 45 seconds and drink your coffee from the nice cups and saucers which you typically only pull out for guests.
Use 1 minute of your day to read an inspiring devotional that will help you maintain a positive mindset.
Spend just 30 seconds more of your night to stand by the window and take notice of the beauty of the setting sun…
Or do whatever it is that makes you genuinely feel better + more at peace.“The secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of life” -Gretchen RubinClick To Tweet
I’d love for you to share some of those little acts of happiness in the comments below 🙂
Want more information on simple ways to improve your life in a huge way? I highly encourage you to read The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin– many of the quotes for this post, in fact, came from that book. Well worth the read!
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